About the Project

For the last year and a bit I have been living by the rules of a different book each month to see if they can help my life.

This is the story so far.

JANUARY 2014 – FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY BY SUSAN JEFFERS
This meant doing something scary every day including:
Getting naked in public
Stand up comedy
Chatting up strangers on the tube
Jumping out of a plane

FEBRUARY 2014MONEY A LOVE STORY BY KATE NORTHRUP
This basically involved me looking at bank statements and crying when I realised that I was over 12K in debt. Not fun.
It also meant me realising that I could blame everything on my parents – hurrah!

MARCH 2014 – THE SECRET BY RHONDA BYRNE
A controversial book which tells you that you can have anything you want in life if you just believe. I found it hard to believe. I did, however, do vision boards, took a Mercedes out for a spin and did NAKED YOGA!!  No, I’m not really sure what the naked yoga had to do with anything either. Oh and the 100,000 Pound cheque I wrote myself still hasn’t resulted in actual real life money.

APRIL/MAY 2014 – REJECTION THERAPY
The aim of the game is to GET REJECTED ONCE A DAY in order to get more resilient to rejection but also to realise that we don’t get rejected half as much as we think we’re going to. This was definitely my experience, especially when asking strangers if I could play tennis with them and chatting up strangers in coffee shop. Well, not many stranger. Just one good looking stranger, aka The Greek. 

JUNE 2014 – F**K IT THERAPY BY JOHN C PARKIN
Swearing my way to enlightenment and saying F**K It to a book deal

JULY 2014- ANGEL THERAPY BY DOREEN VIRTUE
A real struggle. Apparently there are angels all around us and we can talk to them. Alarmingly my angel looked like Bob the Builder.

SEPTEMBER 2014  – DARING GREATLY BY BRENE BROWN
Gorgeous, wise and hard to live and breath. Brene Brown argues that the only way to be happy is to show our real, messy, uncool selves to the world. So I did. I then got a Brazilian book deal!!

OCTOBER/NOVEMBER 2014 – THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE BY STEPHEN COVEY
I managed to get to habit 2 and a half before caving. Very telling.

DECEMBER 2015 – BREAKDOWN
Self-help has driven me crazy. I check into Dublin to have a mini breakdown. No blogging, no self-help…

JANUARY 2015 – THE POWER OF NOW BY ECKHART TOLLE 
I’m behind schedule but determined to carry on. I start off the year with the zen, wonderful and impenetrable Power of Now. I only understand half of it – but what I do understand, I LOVE. A game changer.

FEBRUARY 2015 – GET THE GUY BY MATTHEW HUSSEY  

From the sublime to the ridiculous,  one minute I’m contemplating the beauty of the universe, the next I’m chatting up guys at the supermarket. Oh well…

 

 

7 thoughts on “About the Project

  1. Jean-Paul Van Belle

    Looks to be a bit like Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project… I hope you’ll be just as successful (for your readers and yourself). FWIW I used to be addicted to self-help books myself (late thirties, early forties), but one advantage of getting older is that you finally get to be more comfortable with yourself …. or maybe the books did help and I finally don’t need them anymore. Still like reading them tho – and blogs from people like yourself. Best of luck! And well-done on your first Fee-the-Fear month.

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      1. Jean-Paul Van Belle

        Being a bit of a natural worrier (not warrior), I found the “Don’t sweat the small stuff” series quite helpful – must have bought half of his books (Richard Carlsson). Not sure if ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul’ qualifies – those are more feel-good stories. I am now much more in meditation and, if anyone is looking for something in the overlap between self-help and meditation/awareness, I can most strongly recommend Rirchard Tolle’s “Now!” (I am less impressed with his later work.) Another route for people to explore is the “simplicity” approach (which, for me, happened inbetween my Selp-Help and Meditation phases … it all sounds a bit funny when written like that but I surmise many people go through phases these during middle age (which is most definitely the best part of my life so far).

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        1. Marianne Power

          Meditation and mindfulness is coming up time and time again as the best approach for anxiety. I will do a mindfulness month and would love to try Vipassana – 10 day silent meditation. Meant to be very, very hard but amazing if you can stick it. Thanks for the recommendations.

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  2. Jean-Paul Van Belle

    YES, Marianne! Please do have a meditation/mindfulness month – meditators often forget how difficult it was in the beginning so it takes wonderful people like you to verbalise the first steps/fears/etc for other newcomers. And yes, I can highly recommend Vipassana though I would personally really only advise it for people who’ve already got a few year’s meditation experience … it makes it more manageable and you’ll benefit perhaps more from it. Why not try a gentler 3 or 5-day silent but guided meditation retreat instead first? It’ll allow you to focus more on the meditation aspects. With a 10-day Vipassana, you have to manage the physical issue of sitting still for hours on end, the food & day/night cycle regime, the meditation pose aspect, the complete silence/no communication issue and others all at once. With love – Jean-Paul

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