Category Archives: Seven Habits

Dreams do come true

Screen Shot 2014-11-04 at 14.24.01Every once in a while you meet someone who just radiates goodness and Charlotte Reed is one of those people.

I sat next to her at the lecture I went to this Saturday and within ten minutes she’d offered me half of her egg and cress sandwich. It was delicious. I admired her pink fluffy jumper and she told me I looked much younger than 37. I was smitten.

We got talking and it turns out that I’ve actually been following Charlotte on Facebook for months. She has a page called called ‘[easyazon_link asin=”1781804192″ locale=”UK” new_window=”default” nofollow=”default” tag=”hemebl08-21″]May the Thoughts Be with You: Ideas and Wisdom to Inspire Your Days[/easyazon_link]’ where she posts illustrations with inspiring messages on them. They make me smile every day.

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Day two completed – Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

It’s been nine days since I’ve had a sip of alcohol and this morning I woke up feeling cleaner and perkier and stronger than I have in a long time.


It helped that I had a proper 11-hour sleep without waking up once – which is very unusual for me. I usually wake a few times with quite strong ‘What am I doing with my life?’ panics. That’s the actual voice that comes into my head in the middle of the night ‘What are you doing? What are you doing?’ Either that or I find myself sitting bold upright at around 2am with my heart beating, thinking ‘Where are you?’, even though it’s the same bed I’m always in.

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It’s Sunday morning and the rain is pouring down. I’m in the kitchen drinking coffee and listening to Fleetwood Mac, going through everyone’s pledges. It’s so cool to have you all get on involved, really exciting. Thank you. do one thing well

So my progress report: yesterday I went to a talk given by Gabrielle Bernstein who is a glam, thirty-something ‘spiritual guru’. I know, the phrase makes me cringe, but not really sure how else to describe her. A lot of you will probably know here but if you don’t, check her out here.

She used to be a party girl, doing a lot of drink, drugs etc – but turned her back on it all. She’s now into yoga, meditation and gives great advice dealing with jobs you hate, stress, relationships etc. Oprah calls her a ‘new thought leader’ whatever that means.

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Let’s do it!!


Me too. Perfection here we come. Let’s become so unbearably smug the world can’t stand us.

I already got started on the no booze thing – no red wine for a whole week! Woohoo! I’ve missed it a bit but it hasn’t been too bad actually. Although I’m now going to my friend’s house for dinner and I know that I’ll really really want a big old glass of something. Oh well, I’ll survive.

As I said, I’ll be checking in regularly, to confirm that I’ve done my challenges for the day and please feel free to do the same. Make the comments box your new second home.

A reminder from me, to myself really, my commitments are:

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Thank you xx

I am so excited and delighted by all the messages coming through for 30 day challenge. THANK YOU.

Seems like eating well, exercising and meditating is the order of the day, along with organisation and proactivity when it comes to work/finding new work. We’re all the same really, aren’t we?

A couple of things I’ve noticed both in myself and in other people’s comments – the tendency to want to fix everything at once (yoga, diet, work etc) followed by the tendency to beat ourselves up for how little we’ve been doing in those areas up till now.

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Yay! I am very excited to have so many people joining in the 30 day challenge.  We can be VERY VERY HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TOGETHER. It’s great to have the company, thank you.

Let’s say that we properly start on Saturday 1st November and end on Sunday 30th November.

I will post tiny messages every day to confirm that I’ve carried out my commitments for the day which are:

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About three years ago I signed up to a very intense gym challenge with a friend.

For six weeks I went to the gym five times a week to lift weight, do squats and weird things called burpees with a personal trainer.

I had never done anything like it before. It was a total shock to the system. It was a classic case of hurting in places I didn’t know it was possible to hurt.

To add to this pain we also had to cut out carbs, sugar and BOOZE for the duration. All my major food groups, gone! My body didn’t know what the hell was happening to it.

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Habit One – Be Proactive (and stop the Poor Me stuff)

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I had to proactively read this chapter THREE times to get a handle on it. The language is so dense and full of ‘Principle Centred-Paradigms’ and ‘Character Ethics’, it’s near on impossible to read more than a paragraph without wanting a cigarette break. And I don’t even smoke.

But I’m not going to complain, oh no. That’s not what proactive people do.


Proactivity means that as human beings we are responsible for our own lives. Proactive people take initiative, they make things happen, they don’t blame anybody for their circumstances.

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The 37 habits of a highly ineffective person

Aristotle: ‘We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.’

Here is what I repeatedly do:

  • I drink too much
  • I eat too much
  • I complain that I’m putting on weight and am hungover and not getting any work done
  • I vow to change my ways
  • I don’t change my ways
  • I worry, analyse and go over and over things in my head.
  • I procrastinate
  • I check Facebook
  • I check my emails
  • I check Facebook again

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The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

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Right, OK. Here we go – it’s time to sit up straight and concentrate. We’re about to become HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE. Oh yes.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R Covey (once described as the American Socrates) is one of those self-help classics (20 million copies sold in 38 languages) that most people know the name of but nobody has actually read. At least not past chapter one.

I’ve had this book for nearly ten years and have never got past the first few pages of the 300 page textbook – even though I’ve tried a couple of times. Every time I try my eyes just slip right off the page and into a deep meditation about what to eat for dinner. Or how spotty I am. Or whether I should sell some dresses on Ebay. It makes me the very opposite of Highly Effective.

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